Learn Child Abuse Discipline Techniques
Currently of the most hotly discussed item concerning child behavior is the serious problem of “bullying” and the need to perform effective child abuse discipline. This refers to child on child aggression that according to the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry more than six million boys and four million girls are mixed up in school fights beginning as early as kindergarten.
Preventing Violence Begins at an Early Age
Aggressive human behavior starts early in life where toddlers and pre-school children squabble about physical possession of anything, specifically favorite toys. Often this aggressive behavior is unintentionally rewarded when one child hits another to gain possession of a toy and the victim cries and backs off. This child gains satisfaction when obtaining the toy and believes aggressive action, is the answer toward getting their own way. If this type of behavior is not remedied at an infancy, the aggressor may continue to use aggression and violence to obtain everything the infant wants carrying this pattern through to their teens and adulthood.
What Parents Can Do Disciplining Children
Here are several tips that can be put into action to help deter one child from hitting another:
* Identify a potential volatile situation and intervene before the hitting starts. Do this at the first signs of your child becoming upset and frustrated
* If a child, or children, fight a good deal, supervise more closely
* Separate children immediately if one hits the other. Comfort the victim quickly
* If the aggressor is a one or two-year-old toddler, tell them “No hitting, hitting hurts.”
* If the aggressor is a two or three-year-old youngster, tell them “I understand you are angry, but do not hit people because hitting hurts people. You do not want to hurt people.” This helps begin teaching empathy to your child.
* Never, ever, ever spank, slap a hand or butt of a child who hits another. This will only reinforce aggressive behavior.
* Abstain from allowing siblings or playmates to pretend “acceptable” forms of fighting such as wrestling, mimicking martial arts and what might seem harmless in make-believe sword play.
* Never down play the instances of sibling fighting.
Hitting Reveals Other Challenges
If a child is frequently initiating hitting as either a problem solving activity or an emotional reaction to frustration, anger or non-satisfaction, it is a sign the child has additional issues and problems needing specialized child abuse discipline. The problem could be the child having a challenge controlling anger, may possibly be witnessing constant scenes of violence or is perhaps the victim of abuse at school, day care or even in the home.
Exposure to Violence Can Contribute to Behavior
Academy research reveals statistics pointing out that children exposed to violence at early ages who receive no discipline or behavior modification tend to carry this activity into adulthood. Reports indicate young children who are constantly exposed to violent and aggressive representations of life on television, videos, movies and games will act likewise.
If a young child has no exposure to the above but still exhibits anti-social, aggressive behavior, you need to seek help from a mental health professional who is expert at evaluation and can recommend child abuse discipline methods.